Is She a Keeper?

Are You the Center of Her World?

It might feel nice to be worshipped for a while, especially if you've just been dumped, but that'll get old fast—particularly when she calls four times during the season finale of The Wire.

She's a keeper if . . . she has at least one non-work-related hobby she's passionate about. It means she knows how to have fun without a man and that she won't need you constantly by her side. And if she continues to make time for her own friends (loyalty is good), she won't freak out when you plan a poker night.

Has She Paid for Some Dates?

We know an uptown sort of lady who boasts to her friends, female and male, "I have never had to pay for a drink in my life." According to her retro worldview, men pay for everything, and her boyfriends wait on her hand and foot while she watches Desperate Housewives.

She's a keeper if . . . she likes treating you sometimes. It means she'll approach relationships in a more egalitarian way—and when she says she'll take you for richer or poorer, she'll mean it.

Has She Always Exercised?

If she still has her seventh-grade swimming trophy and a collection of 10-K T-shirts, chances are she'll work out for decades to come, which means the great butt and killer legs that first grabbed your attention are here to stay. But those who go on exercise binges (is that a Tae Bo tape?) or fad diets, only to lose interest quickly, are destined for saddlebags. And if, like the girlfriend of a certain friend of ours, she stays slim by eating a plain celery stalk for dinner every night, pack her a nice sandwich before you dump her.

She's a keeper if . . . you can set your watch to her 30-minute gym visit. An active lifestyle means way more than having shuffled through a half-marathon 6 years ago.

Does She Ever Surprise You?

A just-because present, perhaps? We know it sounds hokey. But we're not talking about a throw pillow bearing a photo of the two of you and the inscription "2gether 4ever" (unless it's a gag gift, in which case she's hilarious and a total keeper). No, we mean the little things that say she's thoughtful and likes the idea of taking care of you.

She's a keeper if . . . she notices that you're out of shaving cream and buys some; you arrive for a date and she's cooking, with a good bottle of red already breathing; she initiates sex.

Does She Hate Her Job?

Our friend John dated a woman who always complained about work. "Turns out," he told us, "all that criticizing was just a cover for being hopeless at her job and her excuse for not getting off her butt to improve the situation." She wouldn't take responsibility for her own happiness, so she tried to find a sense of purpose in him—a burden nobody needs.

She's a keeper if . . . even if she's not in her dream job yet, she has a plan for getting there.

Does She Own a Vibrator? Condoms?

If so, don't feel threatened. Taking an active role in her sexual health and sexual enjoyment bodes well for a long-term sex life. Women who use vibrators have higher sex drives, more orgasms, and better sex lives with their partners, according to a recent survey.

She's a keeper if . . . she knows how to harvest her own orgasms—then she can show you how to as well (ergo, no faking, and less pressure on you). Stock up on double A's.

Does She Always Agree with You?

Yawn. You want a girl with an opinion. Not an annoyingly constant devil's advocate, but someone who will hear out your position and defend her own. A study found that couples who have heated spats but then make up have a better future in the sack than best-friend couples who never fight. Sparks are hot.

She's a keeper if . . . once in a while she plays Ann Coulter to your Al Franken. Or Maureen Dowd to your Rush Limbaugh.

Are Your Zodiac Signs Compatible?

Trick question. If she cares, worry.

Do You Think She's Smarter?

That's a good thing. We've found in our own love lives that relationships are best when each thinks the other is a bit smarter. Life is richer with a woman who can teach you a thing or two. There's a difference between a woman who says or does impressive things and one who says or does cute things.

She's a keeper if . . . you're in bed and can't get something she said out of your head—and it wasn't when the two of you were talking dirty.

Did You Have First-Date Sex?

We can't tell you how many male friends have told us that first-date sex—oral or otherwise—is a long-term deal breaker. It's time to upgrade your thinking, gentlemen. This unabashed passion probably informs her work, her play, her politics, her future kids, her future libido, and more.

Our friends Melanie and Andrew, who got wasted and "went all the way" the first time they met, have been married for 5 years and have an adorable son. (And the sex is still very good. Hey, people tell sex-advice columnists everything.)

Don't let a great girl get away because of your old-fashioned prejudices—keep her!

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Sporting Life 10K Results

It was a beautiful day for a run, with the Push Mob team participating in the Sportinglife 10K. It was to help send kids with cancer to summer camp and with over 14,000 participants this year it was great to see Toronto come together for a great cause. I was really pushing for a below 50 time but I guess it just wasn't in the cards today. Posted below are the official results.

Hope to see more of you guys at the next event!

53:21.7 HAMBRE, SAM

53:47.3  TAM, WILLIAM  
59:04.0  LAM, KIM 
1:02:48.0  KHAZANCHI, MANESHA 
1:03:26.2  TADENA, MARK
1:08:54.2  TANG, JULIUS

Pack a Backpack for Camping

Sleeping bag first

The first thing you pack should be the last thing you use. And unless you're rocking up El Cap or running the Appalachian Trail solo, that should be your sleeping bag. If you don't have a waterproof stuff sack, line yours with a heavy-duty garbage bag to keep your sleeping bag dry. If your pack doesn't have a

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sleeping bag-specific compartment, place it in the bottom of the bag.

Distribute your supplies

Tent: Heaviest items go in the middle and closest to your back. For most people, that means that after your sleeping bag comes your tent and your cooking gear. Most tents made specifically for backpacking are small and light enough to fit in one side of your backpack. If you haven't shelled out for one yet, you should be able to keep the cloth components inside your bag and strap the poles on the outside. Keep in mind, however, that carrying vital equipment on the outside of your pack, such as tent poles, or inflatable insulating sleeping pads, may expose your equipment to severe wear and tear, and may even cause it to break, or fail when you need it most. For example, this approach is fine for a tame trip through a national park with forgiving terrain, but might be ill advised if you are on an off-trail solo-trek through the Kimberly region of Western Australia.

Cooking Gear: If you're planning on hot meals along the side of the trail, your portable burner is up next. Many outdoor companies also manufacture portable stoves and dishes that fit inside one another for compact storage, but if you don't have a matching set, you can also store all of your cooking gear inside your biggest pot. Just make sure that your fuel canister is sealed tightly and stored underneath your food. Leaking white gas is not an uncommon occurrence, and nothing cuts a trip shorter than discovering that your cheese and pitas have become firestarters.

Food: Separate your travel food—trail mix, string cheese, sandwiches -- and put them in a separate and more easily accessible part of your backpack, usually the detachable fanny pack or outside pockets. The rest of your food goes into a storage bag above your camping gear.

Dry Clothes: Even if you don't intend to change your clothes, bring an extra set - especially socks! It can vastly improve your comfort levels in the event of a minor incident like falling into a creek, can keep you alive after a more serious one like falling into a partially frozen creek in the winter. Also (here is where the socks come in) it can be the difference between hiking back at the end of your trip and being carried back early when the blisters on your feet break and start to fester. Dry clothes can also be rolled up and used to fill empty pockets in your pack, so the packing space used can be minimal.

Bear canisters are storage: If you're going through bear country, use your bear canister as a storage compartment in your bag. Nothing is more irritating or frightening than discovering, at the end of the night, that your half-dozen granola bars just won't fit in the canister. A word to the wise: Don't store those extra bars in your sleeping bag.

Water for cooking food: Dried food is good if you're near water, and canned is good if you're not. Couscous, freeze-dried vegetables and rice are all popular options. Plan ahead when it comes to finding water. If you're in a place where fresh water is hard to find, learn the techniques for acquiring it in your chosen environment. Be realistic about it too. Successful desert travel often calls for caching of water beforehand. If that's not an option and water isn't available, go somewhere else. You're not going to be able to carry enough water for more than a day or two at a time.

Keep survival gear on your person

In some cases, this might mean in a separate fanny pack. At the very least, keep a granola bar, knife, and a packet of waterproof matches in your pocket. Even the best Boy Scout can get lost on a scouting mission to find a good campsite, and an extra sandwich goes a long way to keeping you comfortable. Keep odds and ends, like bug repellent, sunscreen and a light shell, in the top compartment of your bag or in your fanny pack. Little items have a way of settling at the bottom of your pack just when you need them the most.

Balance it out

Fill in the loose spaces in your pack with your extra clothes to prevent items from rattling around. For longer trips, you do not want not vacuum seal your clothing to save space because when you finally do need them they have become an unmanageable volume of clothing that you had "compacted" when you started. There is no real way to get it back compacted like it was when you started. There is an alternative to this if you do want to seal your clothes in water proof bags. There are bags designed for this that will let the air out and let them conform very well to the inside your pack and thus making every thing in your pack nice and snug.

Once your bag is full, hoist your pack and test it. Is one side heavier than the other? An unbalanced pack can affect your stride and cause all sorts of back and shoulder pain.

Depending on who you go camping with, you may get used to packing different things -- most people share a tent, as well as other group gear like cooking equipment, trowel, water treatment, med kit, and any kind of rock or alpine gear you might be packing. Food, however, should be equitably distributed based on factors like body weight, strength, and expected consumption. Your average person will eat around two pounds of food every day (during summer weather), making food the single heaviest "item" you're likely to pack. If someone eats more than average, plan for that and have them carry a bit more of the weight as they're likely to be heavier and therefore more up to carrying a bigger load.

With a little practice, your lumbering load will quickly become streamlined and sleek, making the Appalachian Trail a much more manageable proposition.

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